I have been riled out of my bloggers block tonight to return with something to say: Why does it scare the hell out people when they find out Im a single 31 year old gal living in Marmaris? I suppose I had better explain really hadn't I... Over the last few weeks, on 3 totally different occasions, I have been asked (though pity filled eyes) "so why is it that you dont have a boyfriend yet?". How in god's name does one explain that one then? It got to the stage tonight that instead of admitting to being single, I made up a Spanish boyfriend that lives in Istanbul. Why? Because I can not be bothered with trying to explain that I dont and wont settle for second best, that I will only go on a date with a fella that I have a 'click' with, and that yes, for the last sodding time, I have not just split up with someone... I have been single for nearly 4 years (well, on and off but thats a different story for a different blog). Its not as if I am an aging old spinster sitting in my house crying into my pint of vodka alone every night (well, not every night anyway)... I have been on quite a few dates, I have enjoyed myself, I have partied hard and I have not had to answer to anyone. Its safe to say that I frikkin love my freedom. Why shouldn't I love it, I have earnt it after all. I love my 'me' time. I love coming home to Gucci jumping up and down in sheer delight to see his Mam. So back to the main question, why is it that my social status seems to send panic through the mine field of couples? Its not as if Im going to try and steal their man, Im not like that unlike some I know. Dont get me wrong, Im happy that they have found their partner. I however, have not found mine yet and just because of that does not mean that Im a sad and lonely desperado. Hell no. Can I also please point out that I did not come to Turkey for a Man. I didnt have a boyfriend when I arrived. This seems like an alien thing to most here, but why should my single self upset anyone else into pitying me? I do not need pity. What I need is a good night out on the town, I need adventure, I need a girly gossip with my crew, I need my life dam it! If I wanted just any man, I live in Marmaris, so trust me when I say it wouldnt be hard to find. But, I dont just want any man. I believe that I deserve better than settling for some wanker in white socks thinking that being a break dancer is the way forward. Puuurrrllleeeaaasssseeee. Thats just not for me. Im a gal with standards, so please sodding well forgive me for wanting what I want. OK, so in the past I may have been a good time gal, but we all have a past, and thats what mine is: MY PAST. I dont care to judge someone by their past, only their present. I have been called some names on the grape vine that is Marmaris, and mostly by people that dont know me. But why the hell should my life be of such great topic for discussion when most of it is glamorous rumor anyway? OK so maybe I shouldnt have invented a boyfriend to get out of a crap question, but bugger me I feel tired of answering the same thing week in, week out. Give a single gal a break here people please! Its not as if I plan on dying alone for gods sake, its not as if I will remain single forever. Whilst I am though, please let me live my 'oh so upsetting' single life of partying and generally making a complete fool out of myself on the dance floor with moves like my Dads. Let me stay out until the wee small hours of the morning enjoying my single status. Let me get drunk, let me perv over a cute guy that I have no intention of doing anything with, let me be me and just get on with your own life. Please. Off course there are times when this single gal falls into the pit of wondering if my Mr Right is on his way. When this happens, I give myself a slap, pour a vodka, have a bit of a rant and rave, sound off a bit (usually on facebook) and then take a look at what I have got right now. And what I have got right now I quite enjoy. I totally know that there is more frog kissing that I have to endure, but hey, aint that part of the journey? So with that in mind dear 5 readers, if my single status insults you so, why dont you just piss right off or let me get on with it whilst dancing in the rain with my single gal stilettos.
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Suzanna
12/16/2011 07:55:41 am
Darling,you leave them gob smacked cause they can`t bekieve you`re getting away with doing what they want to be doing.Like you say,you earned the right to have a great time and if they don`t like it then it just shows you who your friends are and whos not worth wasting your time on.In that way they`ve done you a favour cause you know from then on that they`re not worth bothering with.You work hard,you play hard,good for you Sweetheart,you enjoy yourself :) xxx
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I feel your pain on this one - I met up with my friend for the first time in a few months yesterday, the first question she asked me was not' how are you?' No, it was 'have you found anyone yet?' I snapped her head off and told her that it doesnt make me incomplete or half a person to be single! x
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Louise
12/18/2011 09:59:57 pm
Who cares if your single at your age , its your life so live it. People talk because they have nothing better to do in there boring lives thats what ive always believed. Finding you on facebook and this website made me realise i want to move to turkey and have a life out there so thank you so much and i enjoy reading your stuff on this. Thank you again xxx
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Rebecca
1/6/2012 06:25:35 am
To say I'm in love with your diary is an absolute understatment! You are fabulous and damn anyone to hell who thinks differently ;)
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Caroline
1/13/2012 05:00:15 am
Reading your diary is like reading my own! I dread to think what they would think of me in Turkey cause I am 38, never been married and still single and like yourself I love the freedom and still like to party hard (although it takes days now to get over the hangover :) I wont settle for second best either, have done that too many times before! Keep on enjoying yourself out in Marmaris and writing your diary, I love Turkey especially Marmaris, you have picked a great place to live! :) x
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JOANNE
3/17/2012 12:37:20 pm
WOW, stumbled across your diary and just kept reading. I was in Marmaris October 2010. Met up with my brother and his girlfriend (they travelling from Holland me from New Zealand) for a ten day holiday. At the time I was 36. My boyfriend (now fiance) didnt want to come on the trip.....so I went without him. I had the best time and each morning sang FREEDOM while doing a lil dance in my hotel room before venturing out for the day. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HqYnevHibaI&feature=related put that on your post party playlist. ps, turn up the volume, no good on low!
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P
3/27/2012 01:43:16 am
I loved this post! I am 22 years old, and even i get the "When are you gonna get a boyfriend?", "You should find someone soon to live the rest of your life with and settle down" with that awful look of pitty in their eyes. Pfft , settle down, I am gonna live my life how I want, not how someonelse want me to. And, pardon me for saying, but i find it absolutley amazing to not have the " ohh, dont be out too late, dont get home too drunk, please can I come aswell to your girls night out just to check on you ? " LOVE FREEDOM !
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Victoria
6/13/2012 04:42:18 am
It's funny how you can stumble across a kindred spirit, for absolute years I've talked about going abroad even just for the summer and this year at the grand age of 29 I've decided to come to marmaris (and it's nit for some guy either) just gutted I left it this long, and if it works out and I can stay longer then all the better, keep living your dreams, yesterday is history, the future is a mystery and today is a gift thats why they call it the present that's my motto :)
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Omer Hamdi Kaya
6/24/2012 09:14:25 pm
Wow! What a free spirit. I liked the way you put things about life and everything. Do not stop.
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